5 Top Tips for Distinguishing Between False and True Friendship

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Identifying True Friendship

 “True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity, before it is entitled to the appellation.” George Washington

One of the things that cannot be guaranteed to remain forever is friendships, because friends come and go. In most cases, as we get older,  our needs and interests change and so we no longer serve or value each other as before and then people move on. In some other cases, things just happened and causes people to part ways with those they once considered friends. At times we have people in our lives that we think are true friends, but alas! The moment you put a foot wrong it won’t take long before you realise that what you actually considered true friendship is nothing but false friendship built on a wrong foundation.

If we care to take note, there are always signs that distinguish true friendship to a false friendship. Below are 5 top tips that can help you identify the friendships that have a real foundation. These are proven truths you can identify in your relationships to determine which ones represent true friendship:

  1. True friendship survives disputes. Siblings that are raised in the same household have disagreement talk less of friends. A true friendship will therefore go through disagreements from time to time and so your bond should withstands those disagreements.
  • True friends know that regardless of the differences or disagreements, the foundation of the relationship still exists.
  •  A sign of true friendship is when two people continue to live well with each other after a disagreement.
  1. True Friends keep it real. A true friend rarely pretends but keeps it real. True friends do not hide but share their vulnerabilities with each other. They trust that their whims are accepted by each other.
  • Your true friends will hardly worry about what you think of their actions or behaviours…because you know very well where they’re coming from. They know that if there’s one person in the world who understands them, then that person is you!
  • It’s also safe to say that your real friends avoid sugar-coating anything they’re saying to you. Expect to get their opinion as real as it comes…they don’t need to twist stories just to win you over!
  1. Your confidentiality is respected. True friendship is built on trust, therefore when it comes to the matter of confidentiality, you can tell a true friend by whether your request for confidentiality is respected.
  • With true friends in your life, you can feel comfortable sharing your deepest secrets. Your secrets will be just as safe with friends as they are when you keep them to yourself.
  • Your private space is important to you, and a genuine friend understands that. They understand when to step aside and give you the time you need. And they do this without feeling offended.
  1. True friend supports you unconditionally. It’s true that friends sometimes have different interests and beliefs. But even when viewpoints are different, true friends still offer support to each other.
  • Friends usually offer advice to each other. And even when the advice you get is different from what you want to hear, you know it’s coming from a genuine sentiment.
  • If you need someone to lean on when you’re going through a rough spot, your real friends instinctively know. They’ll show up when you least expect it and bring loads of hugs with them!
  1. Achievements are celebrated. It’s unlikely that you’ll find a true friend who doesn’t celebrate your achievements. False friends tend to feel envious of your success and make some dodgy remarks about it. But true friends get just as excited as you do about your victories.
  • You’ll most likely find a true friend helping you to prepare for things like an upcoming job interview. Regardless of the fact that it’s a success they want for themselves, they’re happy just knowing you stand a good chance of being the victor.
  • Sincere friends take the time to celebrate and congratulate each other. They give gifts, treat each other to dinner, tell people about their friend’s achievements and make other special gestures…because they truly are and like to show it.

Looking back at the tips above, can you identify anybody in your life that exemplifies a true friend? If you have, hold on to such a person and value them as long as you can as a genuine friend can be difficult to find. The reward in nurturing true friendship is great joy.

Friendship is a two-way action that works both ways. Therefore devote yourself to being the kind of friend that you want others to be to you.

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About the author: A wife, mother, worshiper, writer and a business woman of integrity. An advocate for life purpose and passionate about women living their lives to the fullest and on purpose – making impact… having fun whilst earning a living. Remi Badozi is a life purpose coach who empowers women to live purposeful and leverage the power of the internet. Founder and creator of Life Purpose Matters.

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