Perfectionism is basically what I describe as a belief or the need for an individual to be perfect! It is that kind of belief that makes individuals believe that making mistakes is unacceptable and that everything they do must be done error-free. As you will agree with me, overcoming perfectionism is a necessity as nobody is perfect; such belief will rub you of so many good things in life. If you are a perfectionist and you have been trying so hard to get rid of your need to be perfect all the time…stay with me on this journey!
Generally, perfectionists are always striving to be the best at everything they do, regardless of whether they have full control of the situation or not….a perfectionist will still go ahead and strive for PERFECTION! Don’t get me wrong, striving to be the best is not essentially a damaging thing because quite a number of perfectionists are known to excel in their fields. However, this personality has some unhealthy and unsociable downsides. Perfectionism becomes a liability when an insignificant setback feels like a major personal failure and then those close to you are impacted unfavorably.
One of the damaging effects of perfectionism is that a perfectionist may hold themselves or others to standards that they know are unrealistic. If your perfectionism interferes with your ability to form or maintain relationships, there are steps you can take to overcome perfectionism.
If you go to the museum today, you cannot but help notice that there is no work of art that is perfect. Every famous painting has plenty of blemishes that only a trained eye can spot.
Take for example the Mona Lisa; a great work of art, but I learnt that if you look at it with X-ray fluorescence spectroscopy, you’ll find that the painting is made up of over 40 layers of paint. Had Da Vinci gone much further beyond the 40th coat (i.e. if he had strived more for PERFECTION!), he could have lost the subtleness of human expression his paintings are known for.
Perfectionists tend to hyper-focus on even the tiniest flaws. If you focus on the things you’re unable to do perfectly, you may end up doing nothing at all. You’ll procrastinate so much that the final product will be sub-par.
Do you see how perfectionism can become a self-fulfilling prophecy?
Acknowledge that perfection is unattainable. Rather, aspire for greatness.
Rather than envisioning your project as a perfect whole, try viewing it as a series of well-designed, interlocking pieces.
From now on, be conscious of your behaviour. If you find yourself imposing your perfectionism on others, stop and ask why. It’s helpful to realize that others aren’t required to live by your standards.
One powerful technique that you can use to claim the life you deserve is to learn to think in gradients.
Nothing defuses perfectionism like a healthy sense of humor.
Permit yourself to let go of your perfectionist ways. Take action today by using these 4 top tips for overcoming perfectionism and create measurable changes in your life. You’ll be happy you did!