Misconceptions of Success
Every single one of us wants to be successful in one way or the other. However, quite a large number of people struggle to succeed in life because they have misconceptions of success. If you happen to find yourself in or around any boardroom, or may be a living room or even ladies room, you will hear discussions about achievements, dreams, potentials… You can feel the energy of hopes and wishes as people seek to be more intellectual and express the need to achieve higher heights. The worrying thing is that in most of these conversations, you hardly hear about clarity of purpose.
Often people make plans relative to their life purpose but their focus is often on the kind of activities that connect what is wanted and perceived to be success. What we seldom find is engagement and true connection of our life and our behaviour. Rather, we see strong drives for what we do not have, but think we need. We see a longing for things that define our position in society, but not our purpose in the world. We see an ambitions to have and collect in order to define and validate our status – which is so often not who we are.
Don’t get me wrong money is very important for our daily living and it’s particularly nice to have all the good things that money can buy – nice cars, houses and so on. Owning good things is not the problem; the obsession with them is deadly – and I am not talking about physical death here. Your money, possessions and all the good things in life are not success; rather, they are rewards that come with success.
One of the misconceptions of success is likening rewards to results. The reason why you find yourself wanting more of what you already have is because you often view what you have as a result instead of a reward. People who celebrate what they do rather then what they have always have better results and therefore are rewarded more.
You see, often times it is not about what you don’t know but more about being mistaken about the things you’re certain are true. Having misconceptions gives room to challenges. What if your preconceived notions about success are incorrect? How might your beliefs about your likelihood of success change?
Having the right conception of success is the first key to achieving success because success is a journey and if you have a misconception of success you are definitely heading in the wrong direction – this is why most find themselves going round in circle. If your beliefs are accurate, you will find that achieving success is a lot easier than you originally thought.
Check out these 9 misconceptions of success:
1. It’s too late to reach your goals.
Many of the world’s most successful individuals didn’t get started until later in life. Take into account Colonel Sanders, who started Kentucky Fried Chicken when he was in his 60s. Had he given up because he felt it was too late for him, we would never have heard of KFC that most of us enjoy today.
2. Successful people have to work insane hours.
While many successful people do work many hours, that’s primarily because they enjoy what they’re doing. But it’s unnecessary to focus all your efforts on work.
- It’s important to spend time doing things that help you move forward in a positive direction. Sometimes, that even means doing things that make you feel uncomfortable.
3. It takes a long time to become successful.
It depends on what you’re doing. If you want to become a doctor, it does take a while. But a lot of things can be accomplished quickly with a good action plan.
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4. You have to play by the rules to succeed.
The alternate, “You have to break all the rules to succeed,” is also false. Each situation is unique. You can make up your own rules, as long as you avoid hurting anyone or breaking any laws.
5. Money isn’t important.
Money is very important for those things that require money. Money doesn’t provide emotional support, but it can do a whole lot for you. If you’re unable to pay your bills or buy food, you already know the importance of money.
6. Success is only about making money.
It’s important to have enough money to support your idea of success. But money isn’t everything! Maybe your version of success is about having freedom and enjoying life. Having more money than you need is of questionable value.
7. You’ll achieve the most success if you do it alone.
Success rarely happens in isolation. You’ll probably need help along the way. Partnerships, joint ventures, favors, and mentors are often part of becoming successful. Hopefully, you’ll be able to pay it forward and help someone else on their road to success someday. Most often people try to do it alone because of self-doubt, they believe they’re not s good as so and so…
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8. If you lack education or come from a certain background, you won’t find success.
- Successful people come from all backgrounds and levels of education. In fact, a disproportionate number of highly successful people didn’t complete high school!
- Having a certain background and education can provide different opportunities, but there’s an alternative path to success. History is filled with success stories of those with serious disadvantages.
9. Success is the goal.
Success is the condition of having met your goals. It isn’t a goal in itself. Success, as I mentioned earlier is a journey; a journey towards your goal.
Having learnt about the 9 misconceptions of success, you can now let go of your preconceived notions and beliefs that has held you back from achieving success. A fresh set of beliefs is just what you need to move forward in life. Use the above points to help you and it can lead you down the path of success with your bigger goals.