Get Respect of Others…
Do you sometimes feel that people treat you like a Doormat? Do you allow people to take advantage of you… like you don’t really matter?
If you have answered yes to any of these crucial questions, it’s quite evident that you somehow don’t have the respect of others, because you can only be respected if you give respect. Notwithstanding, this is precisely why you’re here; to learn!
Don’t get me wrong…there’s no justification for anyone to be disrespectful. Certainly, nobody (regardless of who they are) deserves to be taken advantage of. Although, you do not have the power to change anybody, but you most definitely can change how you are treated by others!
Apply these simple guidelines and tips and watch how you’ll begin to get the respect of others:
1. Stick to the “Golden Rule”
There is a “Golden Rule” that most of us are aware of and that is… “Do unto others as you would want others do to you”. This is a superb philosophy you ought to adapt if truly you want to garner respect. When you cultivate a habit of treating others how you want to be treated, people will be inclined to respond and treat you the same manner.
2. Look after YOU first
If you are one of those people that find it difficult to say “No” to others, borrow a leaf from what my mother taught me! She said….”No, is a complete sentence. When you say it, you don’t need to justify it.” When you know deep down in your heart the answer to a request is no, please say “No”. For example, when a friend asks you to babysit her 5-year old so she can get her nails done, be prepared to say “No” if you have your own personal appointments and schedule – especially if it’s more important than your friend fixing her nails!.
- You have to look after YOU first by making yourself and yours a priority. When people see that you respect yourself, they’ll ultimately respect you too.
3. Exploit the power of body language.
Body language always speaks louder than voice, therefore tap into the power of body language. When you are communicating face to face with others, watch your posture and ensure you are portraying the fact that you’re strong and important. Stand straight, look people in the eye, and speak eloquently but not so over powerfully.
- If your body language is saying, “I am valuable and I respect myself,” you will indeed gain the respect of others.
- Your dressing constitutes your body language, therefore always dress appropriately. If you are always dressing shabby, people will treat you as someone not to be taken seriously. You do not have to spend money on expensive clothes, but ensure that whatever you wear at any given time is appropriate for the occasion. Know what colours and cuts suit your body shape and walk smartly. Take care with your hygiene.
4. Speak positively
Having strong body language is not enough but the words that come out of your mouth should be aligned with what your body is saying. Always use positive words to put your point across. Those who speak negative tend to see problems and not solutions, it is extremely important that you come across as someone that’s solution orientated when trying to earn the respect of others. Speak positively with authority, not boastful but don’t demean or belittle yourself either.
- If you leave the impression that you are intelligent and sure of yourself, others will treat you as such.
5. Move with the right crowd
Believe me, there are some individuals that were born to be disrespectful. In spite of what you do to command respect, such people neither see it, feel it, sense it, smell it nor hear it. Basically nothing may work with them!
- Some peoples’ mission is to frustrate other people whichever way they can. They just take pleasure in seeing others down. You will therefore, need to take some time and watch those that you spend your time with. Don’t be quick to call everybody your friend as not everybody you’re acquainted with would have your best interests at heart.
6. Stand up for yourself
How do you respond whenever people are disrespectful to you? Do you just carry on as if nothing happened or do you confront your offender? The thing is, if you carry on avoiding confrontation, the wrongdoer will carry on hurting you and more importantly those who witness the wrong doing will one day treat you likewise because they too will see you as a door mat. People treat us in the way we allow ourselves to be treated.
- If you confront the person and voice your opinion and unhappiness, chances are that person won’t treat you that same way in the future. It’s not about being confrontational, but a simple “I don’t appreciate how you’re speaking to me” can go a very long way.
We all have a desire and need to be respected. By making some small changes, you’ll be able to open yourself to receiving the respect of others, while learning how to also express your respect. Use these techniques in all of your daily dealings.