How to Dissolve Past Pain and Move Forward With Your Life

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Dissolve Past Pain and Move Forward With Your Life…

I have been hurt so many times in my life, some are really deep that when I look back now, I just thank God that I am no longer where I used to be. Past pain can affect your present and future life if you don’t learn to dissolve those pains and move forward with your life. I am not saying it’s easy, but it’s achievable and so much beneficial to you and your loved ones.

How many times have you been hurt so terribly that you believed you’d never get over it? May be you’re still hugging that grief – unaware how or unable to let it go. If you are, my dear friend, it’s time to learn how to let go of past pain. The word “past”, I believe says it all …it’s a past issue and needs to stay in your past life. You deserve to live without the excess baggage, let it go and learn how to move forward with your life.

Hugging and holding onto past pain and grief is nothing but a self-inflicted torment that can affect your health and impact seriously on your well-being. Talking from experience, when you cling to the past, you’re internally changing your present. There is only so much space for your present life and to bring the past into it… you’re in fact depriving yourself.

Would you like to know how you can let go of something you’ve kept inside of you for so long? As I mentioned earlier, it’s not an easy task, but it can be done with dedication, a little effort and self-reflection.

Below are some ways you can dissolve past pain and disappointment, so you can move forward with your head held high:

1.  Identify what is holding you back.

What are you holding onto and why? Identify the things you’re keeping inside that you shouldn’t be.

  • For instance, maybe your best friend betrayed you in a way that broke your trust. Recognize this and figure out a way to finally deal with it. Get in touch with them again, and then explain the pain they’ve caused. 
  • Most times, individuals that caused you the pain may not even be aware they did anything to upset you. Whether or not they apologize isn’t important. While it may be nice, you can’t control others or force them to say sorry. It all depends on individual up-bringing. I was brought up to be quick to say the words “sorry”, “please” and “thank you” , therefore, someone like me will find it easy to apologize – even when I’m not in the wrong! It doesn’t take anything away from me by saying those words but I’m aware of the impact on others. However, by simply voicing your feelings, you are finding a closure from the hurtful situation.
  • Getting closure on something that was left open-ended can make a huge difference in letting things go.

2.  Talk it out.

If the person who caused the hurt is still in your life, talk to them about the way they made you feel. If that person isn’t available, try to talk to a close friend or professional therapist about the situation. Believe me, it’s good to talk!

  • Getting your emotions out in the open can help you get over any resentment or anger you may be feeling. Bottling up your emotions is never a good thing. Let it all out in a constructive way and you’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel.  

3.  Forgive and forget.

It may sound easier said than done, but forgiving someone who has hurt you can be extremely therapeutic. Strive to let things stay in the past and don’t allow them to affect your present. Forgiving someone that has hurt you is a decision you have to make wholeheartedly.   

  • Once you learn to forgive the people who’ve caused your pain, you will find it far easier to heal and move on with your life. 
  • One practical way of forgiving someone is this; if you have a picture of the person, hold it in front of you, look straight into the picture, call their name and say “I forgive you”. Keep saying it until you feel a release in your spirit.

4.  Make the first move.

You’re in charge of your pain. You’re the one who carries it around with you and you’re the only one who can change its intensity. It’s up to you to take control of the pain and take the first step towards making yourself feel better.

  • Acknowledge that your pain is real and that a positive solution exists.
  •  Confront the cause of the pain and do everything in your power to get rid of it.

The best way to move forward is to forgive the past. It is actually unforgiveness that makes you hold on to past hurt. As you do not have the power to change the past, you might as well learn to accept it, do all you can to put it behind and move on. You have a bright future, regain control of your life by making that conscious decision, today, to close the chapter of past pain and move on with your life – a life free from pain and resentment. 

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About the author: A wife, mother, worshiper, writer and a business woman of integrity. An advocate for life purpose and passionate about women living their lives to the fullest and on purpose – making impact… having fun whilst earning a living. Remi Badozi is a life purpose coach who empowers women to live purposeful and leverage the power of the internet. Founder and creator of Life Purpose Matters.

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