Stop Overthinking and Start Making Decisions Confidently


Do you find yourself spending too much time pondering and not enough time getting things done? Overthinking is common, especially when making decisions. Overthinking wastes time and lowers your confidence.

The most successful people make decisions quickly and stick with them. The less successful take too long to decide and quickly change their mind afterwards.

A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.
– Tony Robbins

You might think that you’re being responsible and cautious by taking your time to decide, but you’re shooting yourself in the foot. There’s no evidence to suggest that ruminating excessively on a decision results in a better outcome.

Make up your mind and get on with your life:

1. List the advantages and disadvantages. Write them down. There’s something magical about taking pen to paper when making decisions. By the time you’re done, you’ll have a better idea of the right direction to take.

2. Be aware of your core values. Decisions are more quickly and easily made when you know your core values. When you consider a choice, test it against your core values. Often, these choices aren’t the easiest, but are in your best interests.

3. Remember that you can always change your mind. There are few, if any, decisions you must stick with until your funeral. Just knowing that you can change your mind later can give you the comfort needed to decide. It’s not possible to predict the future with 100% accuracy anyway.

4. Avoid paralysis by analysis. Over-analyzing doesn’t lead to better results. It leads to inactivity and confusion. The Special Forces have a rule that you only need to be 70% certain to act. You might not be in the military, but the same general concept applies.

* Often, the window of opportunity closes before the last 30% of the information can be gathered.

5. Think both short-term and long-term. Ideally, an option exists that satisfies both criteria. Ask yourself if you’ll be happy with your decision in 15 minutes and in 15 years. Any decision that meets both requirements is a great decision.

6. Stay busy. Those that overthink often have the luxury of too much free time. Busy people make decisions quicker because they don’t have the time to brood over every decision. Be more active in general. You’ll find it easier to make decisions in a timely fashion. Exercise is one way to stay busy. You don’t overthink when your body is tired.

7. Use your experience to your advantage. You’ve made plenty of poor choices over the years. It would be a shame to allow them to go to waste. Consider whether you’ve been in a similar situation in the past. You might gain some great insight.

8. Use a timer to make decisions. Most decisions don’t require weeks, or even days, to make. A couple of hours is more than sufficient most the time. Use a timer and put some focus on the issue. When you hear the alarm, it’s time to decide. A timer is an effective way to narrow your focus.

9. A good decision now beats a great decision later. What are you waiting for? Success is more about making decent decisions and working hard than it is about making awesome decisions. Avoid overestimating the value of perfection and underestimating the value of activity.

Avoid over-analyzing every little decision. You’re limiting your results in life if you spend too much time making decisions. Be clear on your values and consider using a timer. You don’t make better decisions by overthinking them. You just waste time. Use that time to execute your decisions. You’ll be more successful.

8 Powerful and Effective Tips to Reduce Stress Levels


Stress is no respecter of anybody; it can be found anytime, anywhere and everywhere; your relationships, work, the climate condition, your health, and your finances can each be a source of stress. When you take a closer look at all these things, you’ll agree with me that ordinarily they themselves are not at all stressful, however, we easily create stress out of them by the  in themselves, but we create stress by the way we construe them. Stress can be created in so many ways and likewise we can reduce stress levels in many ways.

Bearing in mind how depressing stress can make one’s life, learning how to reduce stress levels is a time spent well. Below I will share some useful tips, this is not a “one hat fits all” solution. However, you are bound to find one that works perfectly for you if you can be persistent in trying a number of possible solutions till you find that perfect solution for you.

Try these powerful and effective ways to reduce stress levels you encounter daily:

  1. Laugh More. Laughing is a perfect remedy to stress. Having a good laugh will make you feel better mentally, emotionally and physically. If you must, get yourself an audio CD or a book of jokes or go online and search for humour-related websites and have a quick pick-me-up jokes every now and then.
  2. Get Close to God. I personally believe that my closer walk with God has helped me live a stress-free life. I am quite confident that a lot of people also find that their belief in God has helped relieve reduce stress levels considerably. If you don’t attend church regularly, I encourage you to re-examine yourself. Find a place and time in the day or night to spend time communing with God and build a relationship with Him. A relationship with God will not only put your life in order but also give you inner peace and joy.
  3. Get a brief nap. Having a nap is a great way to reset your brain and rejuvenate yourself. You may have to try out different timings for your naps as there isn’t a duration that’s a best solution for everyone. I personally find that if I nap for too long, I feel quite woozy and irritable. Just ensure you discover the best sweet spot for you.
  4. Write in your journal. Everyone should have a journal! If you yet to start a journal, it is time you do. You can start with a straightforward notebook if you make it a daily habit, you will reap the benefits. Once you notice you’re beginning to feel anxious about something, get your journal out and start writing about your feelings. It may look silly to start with, but writing is an effective way to get negative thoughts out of your head. Try it and see how much better you feel.

    If you don’t think your anxiety, depression, sadness and stress impact your physical health, think again. All of these emotions trigger chemical reactions in your body, which can lead to inflammation and a weakened immune system. Learn how to cope, sweet friend. There will always be dark days. – Kris Carr

  5. Have daily walks. Get yourself a good pair of walking shoes and maybe an umbrella, depending on the weather condition. Walking is cost-free, good for your body and soul, and a fantastic way to reduce stress levels. Find a way to incorporate one or a couple of walks into your daily routine. You’ll be happy with the results.
  6. Learn to breathe deeply. Practice taking slow, deep breaths and concentrate on your breathing to reduce stress levels. The combination of altering your breathing helps in taking your mind off your challenges and it works like magic. Basically, you take a slow breath, hold it for two seconds, and then release it slowly. Do that 10 times while concentrating on the process.
  7. Listen to your favourite music. Music is a highly effective way to alter your emotions. With the right choice of music, you can make yourself feel happy, sad, energized, or angry. Choose your music wisely and keep it handy. Repeat the same music over and over if it makes you happy.
  8. Make a list of solutions. You get stressed because you worry about the future. Instead of worrying, make a list of ways to deal with what is bothering you. You’ll reduce stress levels if you concentrate on what you can do to resolve your challenges.

Stress is bad for your physical and mental health. You don’t have to live daily with stress as it will eventually affect your well-being if not brought down to a manageable level. There are many ways to deal with the physical and mental effects that stress creates. The above powerful and effective tips can help you a great deal to reduce stress levels when you experience stress. With time, you’ll find the best strategy that work the best for you.

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Free Your Mind and Gain Perspective


Unless you’ve been meditating in a monastery in Tibet for the last decade, your perspective is skewed. It’s skewed by your past, the expectations of others, and your emotions. We inadvertently trap ourselves with faulty thinking and incorrect perceptions. Much of this is habitual and challenging to change, but it can be altered.

Give yourself a break from your self-imposed limitations – free your mind:

1. Free yourself from the past. Hopefully, you’ve learned a lot of valuable lessons from your past. Unfortunately, you’ve also learned a lot of incorrect information, too. You’ve learned to avoid and fear things that are actually good for you. You’ve learned to like things you should avoid.

  • The past exists to serve you, not to guide you. Focus on today.

2. Take a media diet. The media is hardly about reality. It’s about ratings. The media might be presenting factual information, but the information isn’t the norm. It’s the interesting and sensational things that keep viewers tuning in night after night. The media present a narrow slice of the world.

  • TV and newspapers also present advertisements. That’s how they pay for the “service” being provided to you. Marketers attempt to present a certain lifestyle as ideal. You can determine your ideal lifestyle for yourself.
  • Take a break from the news and attempt to ignore the advertisements. Consider recording your programs and skipping through the ads.

3. Make decisions without concern for what others think. Admit it. When you make certain decisions, you consider how your decision will be perceived by others. This might be important in a work setting, but you should feel free to be yourself the rest of the time.

  • If you don’t think your friends will approve of a decision, you might need to find new friends. People admire and respect those that are willing to be authentic and be themselves.

4. Forget about the possibility of being perfect. Perfection is an unrealistic expectation. Life is about dealing with the imperfect. Your partner, boss, children, physique, health, finances, and the weather are consistently imperfect. Your job is to figure out how to manage the imperfections.

5. Talk to an older relative that you respect. Sure, your grandfather wears socks with his sandals when he goes to the beach and pulls his bathing suit up to his armpits, but he knows things that you don’t. People in their middle age tend to be a little too serious.

  • Those over the age of 70 have a unique perspective on life. Spend some time with an older relative and ask questions. Ask them how their perspective has changed over the years. It’s likely that you’ll experience similar changes, too.

6. Watch younger children. Kids under the age of five are young enough to not care what others think, but are old enough to have preferences. Children of this age will do whatever they want if left to their own devices. They are psychologically free. What would you do if you had the perspective of a 4-year old?

Regularly take a mental break from the world and assess your perspective. The challenge with enhancing your perspective about life is that you’re constantly “in” your life. When you’re in the middle of the woods, all you can see are trees. But the world also contains oceans, deserts, and mountains.

However, it’s even more challenging than that, because you’re the one that created the trees in the first place! Those trees are likely limiting you. Disengage from time to time and seek a new viewpoint. Move beyond your past. Free your mind and gain perspective.

Find Purpose and Meaning in Life


Find Purpose and Meaning in Life

If you ask the average person if their life has purpose and meaning, you’re likely to only receive a few nods. People really do lead lives of quiet desperation. It’s common to feel dissatisfied with life and to believe that your life lacks purpose and meaning. This doesn’t have to be a permanent condition!

There’s no set recipe for a meaningful life. Your values and perception of the world are unique. The most meaningful and purposeful life you can lead is specific to you. Have the courage to create a life that potentially lies outside the norm.

Live a life filled with meaning and purpose:

1. Help someone. The most satisfying life is one that serves others in some way. You could be an author that writes interesting novels or a high school math teacher. You might volunteer to coach youth baseball twice a week. A life devoid of service to others isn’t as meaningful as it could be.

2. Do something new. Most people spend their time living a small bubble, that bubble where you’re only concerned with short-term pleasure and pain. Change your life up a little bit and do something new for a change. Do something that interests you, even if it makes you uncomfortable.

3. Drop television for a week. Watching TV is addictive. It’s a very distracting and an easy activity to do. It also steals valuable hours from your life that could be spent doing countless other things.

  • You could go back to school, learn to speak Japanese, spend time with actual people, or write a book. What will you get from another year of watching TV every night?

4. Write your own script. Too many people feel compelled to live by the “rules” of society. There’s a compulsion to go to college, get married, have kids, and have a sensible career. But how can you find purpose in your life when the main structure of your life was determined by society and not yourself?

  • It’s never too late to break free from the mold that society has created. Does the typical conventional life appeal to you? Make your own rules.

5. Push beyond your comfort zone. An interesting and exciting life is beyond that comfortable place you like to reside. The comfort zone is a breeding place for mediocrity, which isn’t purposeful or meaningful. A meaningful life lies beyond the limits of your current sphere of comfort.

6. Follow your gut. Your gut is tuned to your interests, experiences, and perception of the world. Let your intuition guide you in the big decisions.

7. Know your values. Are you keenly aware of your values? What matters the most to you? Can you live a meaningful life that isn’t built around your values? Unlikely. Be aware of your values and take them into consideration when making all of your decisions.

  • Make a list of all your values. The list might be quite long! Now put them in order, with the most important at the top of the list. Circle the top six.
  • For the next month, make all of your decisions with these six values in mind. If you can’t do it, you might have to rearrange your values!

Be aware of your strength and passions. By combining your values, strengths, and passions, you can create a meaningful life. Serve others along the way and you’ll have a surefire winner.

Become familiar with your values, strengths, and passions. You’re more likely to build a meaningful life with knowledge of these pivotal areas. The right lifestyle is specific to you. If your life lacks purpose and meaning, it’s time to create a new life. You don’t have to live a life of quiet desperation.

Dont Buy Another Frozen Dinner Until You Read This



Convenience may be the first thing that comes to mind when you think about frozen dinners, but a recent study suggests there’s more to it. On the other hand, whatever your reasons for buying a meal in a box, there are probably more nutritious choices.

Researchers from the University of Minnesota and Duke University decided to find out why processed foods are so popular with parents, considering they’re usually higher in calories, sugar, salt, and saturated fats than natural foods. While 57% of the participants said they were trying to save time, they had other reasons as well.

About half said their families liked frozen dinners, about one-third said they wanted their kids to be able to help prepare meals, and about one-quarter thought they were saving money. Researchers also discovered that many adults lacked confidence in their cooking abilities.

Fortunately, there are simple solutions that make whole foods as simple as a frozen pizza. Before you buy another TV dinner, read this.

Master Simple Cooking Skills

Microwave it. Your microwave can handle a lot more than popcorn. It cooks vegetables almost as well as steaming because it needs minimal water and time. Heating up leftovers is also a breeze.

Shop frozen foods. You can still visit the frozen aisle for ingredients like vegetables and fruit. In fact, frozen produce often has more vitamins than fresh items that have spent a long time in shipping.

Make one pot meals. Soup and casseroles can use up whatever you have on hand in your kitchen without trying to coordinate multiple procedures. Plus, you only have one pot to clean.

Eat more fish. Most experts recommend eating fish at least 2 to 3 times a week. That’s easy once you realize you can often grill it or bake it in 10 minutes or less.

Teach your kids. Encourage your children to develop healthy eating habits with age appropriate tasks. Even toddlers can shred lettuce or help set the table.

Save Time and Money on Healthy Meals

  1. Try beans and legumes. Beans, lentils, and peas are packed with protein, and amazingly versatile. They’re also a great bargain, especially if you purchase them in bulk.
  2. Buy generic. Compare the store brand unsweetened breakfast cereal with the pricier options. You may find that you and your family like it just as well.

Shop around. There can be a huge price difference on the same items at different markets. Plus, many whole foods have a short shelf life so you can get salad greens at half price if you’re using them the same day.

Stock up on sales. Do you love saffron and extra virgin olive oil? Buy expensive items when the prices are reduced. Just be sure you’ll be able to use them before they reach their expiration date.

Eat less meat. There are plenty of protein sources less expensive than steak. In addition to beans and legumes, consider dairy and soy products.

Cook in batches. One big time-saver is preparing multiple meals at once. Freeze the leftover lasagna or chili for future quick dinners or lunches.

Skip cooking. A balanced meal can be assembled rather than cooked. How about hummus with pita triangles and cut vegetables or a salad with sunflower seeds or thawed shrimp?

An occasional frozen dinner is fine, but making whole foods the mainstay of your diet will provide more balanced nutrition for you and your family. In fact, the more you eat natural foods, the more you’ll start preferring them to processed fare.

Discover the Power of a Food Journal


Imagine a free weight loss tool that doubles your chances of taking off pounds. That’s how powerful a food journal can be. Researchers at Kaiser Permanente studied participants in a weight-loss program, and found that those who kept daily food journals lost twice as much weight as those who didn’t.

Of course, keeping a journal does require some time and work. See how these tips can help you stay on track.

Benefits of Keeping a Food Journal

1. Increase your awareness. A food journal puts an end to mindless snacking. You become more aware of how much you really eat.

2. Resist temptation. Knowing that you’ll need to jot down those bacon bits on your salad or that extra slice of birthday cake may be all you need to stop you in your tracks. Making nutritious food choices becomes automatic.

3. Increase your knowledge. Your journal is educational too. You’ll learn about calorie counts, fiber intake, portion sizes, and new recipes. In fact, MyFitness Pal, a popular weight loss app, claims that their users who log recipes lose 40% more weight.

4. Target your efforts. Once you spot your triggers, you can change them. You’ll notice the times of day when you crave something sweet or your tendency to eat the whole donut when you meant to take just a bite.

5. Eat healthy. Remember that your food journal can help you do more than take off pounds. You can identify allergies, monitor your blood sugar, or do just about anything that involves food and your overall wellbeing.

How to Keep a Food Journal

1. Act quickly. Writing your meals and snacks down immediately is ideal. You’re less likely to forget important details.

2. Aim for consistency. Make entries each day if possible. If you slip once in a while, get back on track as soon as possible. The more weeks and months of data you collect, the more valuable your journal becomes. If the time commitment seems daunting, remember that you’ll probably get faster as you go along.

3. Tell the truth. Be honest even if your lunch consisted entirely of French fries. You can keep the entries for your eyes only if it helps.

4. Be specific. Details matter. Mention each ingredient in your sandwich. Notice how much cream or sugar you’re adding to your coffee. Pay attention to the calories you drink whether you indulge in pumpkin lattes or margaritas.

5. Look at the big picture. Your diary can encompass more than food and beverages. Write about your emotions and how they affect your eating. Include information about other relevant factors such as exercise, sleep, and health conditions.

6. Choose your format. Buy a pretty blank book or use an online template. Maybe you want something that’s easy to tote around or perhaps you prefer to keep it on your nightstand.

7. Take pictures. Photos make your journal more fun and productive. Include before and after shots of your shrinking waistline. Use images to help you remember and recreate your favorite slimmed-down dishes.

8. Review frequently. Rereading your diary will help you evaluate your progress and make healthy changes. Looking back gives you a chance to reflect and gather any information you want to share with your doctor or other professionals. You can also use your diary to chart your future as you think about the next milestone you want to reach.

Keeping track of what you eat is an effective way to lose weight. As long as you’re consistent and accurate about food journaling, an occasional slip won’t stand in the way of your eating healthier and looking slimmer.

Create a Life Plan and Stop Living on Accident


Do you consider yourself intelligent, capable, and kind? Is your life in perpetual chaos and you don’t understand why? It’s possible that you’re living your life on accident. Avoid allowing luck to rule your life. Put your foot down, make a plan, and choose a direction for your life.

Take responsibility for your future:

1. Examine your current situation. How did you end up where you are? Are you living in the home or apartment you’ve always dreamt of? Why not? How did you end up there? Was it the result of long-term planning? Or was it the only place that you could find on short notice that would accept a $99 deposit because you were short of cash?

* Consider all aspects of your life. That includes your career, friends, fitness level, finances, intimate relationship, and so on. Did you choose what you have, or did you just grab at the best opportunity that happened to wander by your awareness?

2. Determine the type of life you want to lead. What type of job do you want? Where do you want to live? How do you want to spend your evenings? How much money do you want to earn? Describe your social life. Take the time to thoroughly examine the future you’d like to experience.

3. Put the first things first. Money isn’t the only thing, but it’s an important thing. Money is great for solving many of life’s challenges. It’s also a necessary resource for doing many other things. If you’re having financial struggles, it would make sense to work on your finances first.

* Make a logical progression for each part of your life you’d like to change. If you need to lose 100 pounds, going for a daily walk and eliminating high-calorie drinks would be a good start. After a month of walking, you could add in additional exercise and diet changes.

* Focus on financial and health issues first. After you’ve gained some momentum, you can address the other parts of your life.

4. Be brave enough to choose. Why haven’t you made decisions about your life in the past? Is it possible that you were afraid to make a choice and possibly fail? It’s true that you can’t fail if you never try, but you can’t ever experience success and happiness either.

5. Have enough discipline to choose. When you’re confused and uncertain, it feels easier to avoid making decisions. You don’t want to make the wrong decision after all. However, this type of thinking is a trap. It’s better to make a reasonable choice and give it your best effort than it is to not make a decision at all.

6. Realize that luck isn’t on your side over the long-term. When you don’t put energy into something, it will tend to fall apart over time. Whether you’re talking about a fence, a sand castle, or your life, luck isn’t kind. The natural way of the universe is to move from ordered to disordered.

* The only cure is concentrated effort and energy. A wooden fence only survives if you repair it and paint it at regular intervals. Even then, it will still have to be replaced at some point. Your life is no different. Without energy and intention applied regularly, your life falls apart just like the fence.

Now is the time to take control of your life and make decisions that matter. Choose a course for your life or allow entropy to slowly destroy it. Take control while there’s still time to create an exciting life.

Accept Responsibility for Your Life and Regain Control


There’s a comfort that comes from having an excuse for your challenges in life. Whether you can blame your issues on poor parenting, a boss that hates you, or the universe in general, it’s soothing to have an excuse. However, that excuse has a cost. By putting the blame and responsibility outside yourself, you take away your power to change your situation.

Is everything you’re fault? Of course not. But it is your responsibility. If you don’t fix it, who will? Even if you had horrible parents, there’s nothing they can do about it now.

Choose to see everything in your life as your responsibility and start making some changes. You’ll eventually enjoy the power that comes with responsibility.

Accept responsibility for your current situation and take control of your life:

  1. Be aware of how you’ve contributed to your own challenges. Maybe you made poor decisions. Maybe you failed to take action. Look at the least satisfying parts of your life and determine how you created them. Be sure to also look at the great parts of your life and give yourself some credit, too.
  2. Build your self-esteem. The more self-esteem you possess, the easier it is to deal with life’s challenges. If you’ve been avoiding responsibility, your self-esteem has been suffering. Taking responsibility builds self-esteem. They go hand-in-hand.
  • Remember all the wonderful things you’ve accomplished in the past. Imagine how great you’ll feel when you turn your life around.
  1. Remember that not everything is within your power to change. You can’t make your boss like you. But you can find another job. You can’t make your spouse stop drinking. But you can demand that they seek help and choose to leave if they don’t comply. In the end, you can only control yourself. Avoid worrying about the things that are outside your control.
  2. Take responsibility for the little things. The big things are more exciting, but the little things are important, too. In fact, not taking care of the little things often leads to the big things. Take responsibility for the everyday tasks that you face on a regular basis.
  3. Be the best version of yourself. Hold yourself to a higher standard than anyone else would ever demand of you. This is the ultimate way to take control, because you’re accepting the highest level of responsibility. Being the best version of yourself means doing what needs to be done whether you feel like it or not.
  4. Avoid blaming yourself. Taking responsibility and taking the blame are two different things. Does it matter who’s to blame? You’re taking care of business, so it doesn’t matter if it’s your fault or not. You’re solving the problem, regardless of the cause. Blaming yourself makes you less effective.
  5. Expect to be uncomfortable. Taking responsibility is the opposite of avoiding responsibility. Why did you avoid responsibility? Because it’s more comfortable than being responsible. With responsibility comes discomfort.
  • Take comfort in the fact that your discomfort will provide significant rewards. Do you think that ultra-successful people deal with more or less discomfort than the average person?

It’s natural to avoid responsibility whenever possible. Accepting responsibility results in more work, at least for the time being. It can mean less work down the road, though. Handing challenges today ensures that they don’t grow into even bigger challenges later.

Failing to take responsibility comes with a heavy cost. You feel as if you lack the ability to change the course of your life. You lose respect for yourself and increase the likelihood of suffering from depression.

It’s time to take responsibility for your life and regain the control that’s so important to your success!

8 Ways to Unlock Your Potential

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8 Ways to Unlock Your Potential

Do you wonder why you haven’t accomplished more with your life? Do you feel that you have great potential locked up inside of you? Most adults feel this way. No one ever truly reaches their potential, but it’s discouraging that so many of us never even scratch the surface of our potential. Are you ready to find out what you can do?

Find out what you’re really capable of accomplishing:

  1. Be bold. This is the number one tip for unleashing your potential on the world. Your limited achievements are likely due to the fact that you’re timid. If you were out there doing your best each day, you’d be too busy piling up successes to read an article like this. Stop caring about the opinions of others and show the world what you’ve got.
  2. Have bold goals. To live up to your potential, you need goals. Goals provide a direction for your energy and effort. Effective goals are motivating, which is great if you’re going to set bold goals! Avoid overwhelming yourself. Goals should be bold, but not overwhelming.
  1. Combine your strengths and interests. Do you really care about maximizing your chess-playing potential if you don’t enjoy playing chess? You’ll have the most potential in the areas where you show natural strength and have a high level of interest. What are you good at that you also enjoy?
  2. Get expert assistance. Some of the leading experts in the world still have a coach or mentor. The right mentor can help you to reach your potential faster than you can do it alone. Spend the time necessary to find a good mentor. It’s like putting your progress on the fast track.
  3. Make progress each day. A small amount of progress, accumulated over time, can result in amazing progress. Avoid overwhelming yourself by setting a schedule or goals that you can’t maintain. But, be sure to make some progress each and every day. The amount of progress you can make in a year would be staggering.
  4. Develop habits that help you accomplish your goals. Keeping with the same theme of making progress each day, your habits are those things you do each day. An effective set of habits all but guarantees success.
  • Examine your goals and determine the habits that would make success likely. The hardest job you have is creating habits. Once the right habits are in place, there’s little else to worry about. Create an effective routine and stick with it.
  1. Determine your obstacles. There’s always something in the way. It might be a lack of time, money, or other resource. Maybe you have a spouse that demands a lot of your time. Maybe you live in the wrong place. After all, it’s not easy to maximize your surfing skills in Missouri.
  • Create a plan for dealing with your obstacles. What can you do to overcome them, or at least minimize them? What do you need? What do you need to stop doing? How can you alter your life to make success more likely?
  1. Expect success. If you expect failure, you’re bound to fail. Why not give yourself the benefit of the doubt and expect good things? If you have solid goals, good habits, and a smidge of discipline, there’s no reason to doubt yourself.

Making a few decisions, acting boldly, and finding a mentor are just a few of the things you can do to unlock your potential. Make today the day you start living at your highest level. What are you waiting for?

18 Graceful Delights to Share with Your Aging Parents


Looking after of your aging parents can be hard work, but there are also great joys. Remember how lucky you are each day that you still have your mother and father in your life.

“To care for those who once cared for us is one of the highest honors.”
Tia Walker, The Inspired Caregiver: Finding Joy While Caring for Those You Love

In fact, it’s natural to want to find some way to give back when you think about all that your parents have done for you. Use this list to get you started on creating your own moments of love and happiness.

Graceful Delights That Take Less Than 15 Minutes

  1. Listen closely. Give your parents your full attention. Let them know that you value what they have to say.
  2. Send flowers. Brighten their home with flowers or a plant. No special occasion is needed.
  3. Share photos. Even if they check Facebook regularly, your parents would love a printout of a cute photo of their grandchildren inside a pretty frame. If you can’t pick just one image, make a photo book.
  4. Sing along. Buy them a CD of golden oldies. Bring back memories of high school days or summer road trips.
  5. Dance around. Get up on your feet. Try a little ballroom dancing or the twist.
  6. Experience nature. Watch a sunset or listen to chimes ringing in the breeze. Notice trees changing color in the fall or sparkling with ice in the winter.
  7. Laugh out loud. Tell a joke or a funny story about what happened at work. Reminisce about the silly things you did growing up.
  8. Hug each other. Touch is essential to our emotional wellbeing, but the longer we live the less we tend to receive. Wrap your arms around each other or squeeze your parent’s hands when you’re coming and going.

Graceful Delights That Take a Little Longer

  1. Read a book. Read out loud from a novel or the newspaper. Pick up large print books if your parents like them.
  2. Watch TV. Families used to gather around one giant device. Turn on an old sitcom.
  3. Write a letter. Letters are more memorable than email. Drop one in their mailbox.
  4. Adopt a pet. If your parents’ circumstances allow, help them find an older dog or cat to love. If not, bring your dog over to give them some affection and entertainment. Call around to see if there are therapy animals in your area that could visit them.
  5. Work out. Take a walk around the block. Offer to drive them to senior exercise classes.
  6. Eat as a family. Prepare lunch together. Sit down in the dining room or out in the back yard.
  7. Gussy up. Grooming becomes trickier in the later years. Invite your mother along when you’re having a haircut or a manicure. If your father prefers privacy, buy a kit so you can give him a cut and a shave.
  8. Clean the house. Chores can be fun. Agree to vacuum the living room if they’ll treat you to cookies and tea afterwards.
  9. Volunteer together. Show your parents that they can still make a contribution. Teach English to recent immigrants or sort food at a local pantry.
  10. Plan an outing. Fight loneliness and isolation by suggesting activities outside the home. Take your mother and father out for an afternoon at a local museum or shopping mall. Maybe your local library shows free old movies where you can mingle with other families with the same idea.

Each stage of life has its own special pleasures. Even when you and your aging parents may be struggling with your changing roles and the loss of independence, facing the transition together draws you closer.