One of the best ways to keep healthy is to have healthy relationships. However, some people tend to attract the wrong kind of people into their lives. Likewise there are people who attract the right people but are unable to keep good relationships in their social circle. There are quite a number of simple and effective ways of attracting and maintaining meaningful relationships you can enjoy in your life.
Simply ensuring that people feel good and at ease in your presence by maintaining a positive attitude, is one way of preparing yourself to creating the right relationships.
Attract and maintain meaningful relationships by following the strategies below:
1. Make people feel good about themselves
The way people feel about you is a reflection of how you make them feel. If someone feels interesting, confident, and capable when you’re around, they’re going to like you. If they feel insignificant, unintelligent, and anxious around you, the opposite occurs.
- Ask yourself why you like the people you like. Then ask yourself why you dislike the people you dislike. You can learn a lot this way.
2. Listen to what others have to say
One of the simplest ways to make others feel important is to give them your full attention. Keep your focus on the other person and listen to the best of your ability.
3. Be reliable
We treasure those we can count on. Be on time. Keep your word. If you say you’re going to do something, do it. Be that person that we all respect.
4. Maintain regular communication
Relationships fall apart without regular communication. The level of comfort and familiarity drop over time if you go too long without speaking to each other. At least once a month, pick up the phone and maintain contact. It can be work, but the rewards are worth the effort.
5. Be open
Most of the communication that occurs between people is boring and frivolous. Forget about the weather as a topic. Share something interesting and encourage the other person to do the same.
6. Find mutual ground
Determine what you have in common and put your energy into that. You might only have 5% in common with someone else, but that can be enough to build a strong and meaningful friendship. Put 100% of your effort into that 5%.
7. Help them succeed
What’s important to the other person? Help them succeed at whatever it is.
8. Be positive
We all secretly like that person that always seems to be in a good mood. We all dislike that person that’s always in a foul mood. Be a ray of sunshine for everyone you meet.
9. Compliment others
Giving too many compliments can be counterproductive, but the occasional, sincere compliment is always appreciated. Compliments are even more powerful if given in front of others.
10. Share experiences
You always feel close to that person that you’ve shared experiences with, even negative experiences. Make an effort to spend time together doing something meaningful, and hopefully, positive. It can be as simple as going to the State Fair, eating cotton candy, and riding the Ferris wheel. Neither of you will ever forget it.
11. Ask questions
People enjoy talking about themselves, and it makes them feel important. Ask a few questions about their day, their life, or their hopes and dreams.
It can be that easy. Show a sincere interest in others, be open, maintain regular contact, and focus on making the other person feel good about themselves. Be wary of giving “constructive criticism.” While you may have the best of intentions, negative comments can weaken relationships.
Sometimes we bring issues from our childhood into our relationships without knowing. There’s absolutely no need to sit back and be upset about the lack of meaningful relationships in your life, through personal reflections and self-development you can begin to attract and maintain meaningful relationships in your life.
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